Hema recalled meeting her mother-in-law after Esha’s birth

In her biography Hema Malini: Beyond The Dream Girl, authored by Ram Kamal Mukherjee, Hema spoke about meeting

Dharmendra’s mother and recalled how warmly she hugged and blessed her. She revealed that Satwant came to see her

without informing anyone in the family.

“Dharamji’s mother Satwant Kaur was equally warm and kind-hearted. I remember how she came to meet me once at a dubbing

studio in Juhu after I had conceived Esha. She hadn’t informed anyone in the house. I touched her feet, and she hugged

me and said, “Beta, khush raho hamesha (Be happy always).” I was happy that they were happy with me.” she wrote.

Dharmendra’s father and Hema’s father would arm-wrestle

Not just Dharmendra’s mother, even his father Kewal Kishan Singh Deol was very fond of her. She recalled Kewal’s bond

with her father V.S. Ramanujam Chakravarthy and how Dharmendra’s father would arm-wrestle him.

“He would drop by and meet my father or brother for chai. Instead of shaking hands, he would arm-wrestle them, and after

defeating them he would jokingly say, ‘Tum log ghee-makkhan-lassi khao, idli aur sambhar se taqat nahi aati (Have

butter, lassi, ghee. Idli and sambhar won’t make you strong). My father would join in the laughter. He (Dharmendra’s

father) was a very jovial person,” she recalled.

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Hema on not meeting Dharmendra’s first wife

About not crossing Dharmendra’s first wife Prakash Kaur’s path, the Sholay actor said she “didn’t want to disturb

anyone.” Hema added that she has never spoken to Prakash, but she and her daughters respect her.

“I am happy with whatever Dharamji did for me and my daughters. He played the role of a father, like any father would

do. I guess I am happy with that. Today, I am a working woman and I have been able to maintain my dignity because I have

devoted my life to art and culture. I guess, if the situation was even slightly different from this, I wouldn’t be what

I am today,” she wrote.

‘Nobody wants to be like that’: Hema on living separately from Dharmendra

Though Hema expressed that she “doesn’t want to disturb” anyone and stays away from Dharmendra’s family with his first

wife, she also admitted that the arrangement of him living with his first family wasn’t ideal.

She said, “Nobody wants to be like that; it happens. Automatically, what happens, you have to accept. Otherwise nobody

will feel like they want to live their life like this. Every woman wants to have a husband, children, like a normal

family. But somewhere, it went out of the way… I am not feeling bad about it, or sulking about it. I am happy with

myself. I have my two children, and I have brought them up very well.”

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‘Would not have done what she did’: Prakash Kaur on Hema marrying her husband

Dharmendra was 19 years old when he married Prakash Kaur in 1954, a time when he wasn’t a star and hadn’t entered the

film industry. After becoming an actor, he fell in love with co-star Hema Malini when they first met on the sets of Tum

Haseen Main Jawaan in 1970.

In 1981, in a chat with Stardust, Prakash Kaur spoke about his second marriage and even defended her husband against the

label of being a “womaniser”. “Why only my husband? Any man would have preferred Hema over me “How dare anyone call my

husband a womaniser when half the industry is doing the same thing?”

Prakash defended Dharmendra’s choice to marry again, stating how all male actors have affairs. “All heroes are having

affairs and getting married a second time. He may not be the best husband, though he is very good to me, but he is

certainly the best father. His children love him a lot. He never neglects them,” she said.

However, Prakash didn’t approve of Hema choosing to marry an already married Dharmendra. “I can understand what Hema is

going through. Even she has to face the world, her relatives and her friends. But if I were in Hema’s place, I would not

have done what she did. For, as a woman, I can understand her feelings. But as a wife and a mother, I do not approve of

them,” she had said.